Saturday, September 26, 2009

The truth about romance...

Many people ask "what can I do to be romantic?" or "Can you give me some ideas?". This is the misconception many of us have about romance. Romance is not about masterminding some scheme to lure someone like a tiger luring his prey until he pounces on it. True romance is some gesture which sincerely comes from the heart. You do not have to be rich, a genius or the most fantastic person in bed, to be a romantic person. All you need is a sincere heart and a limitless love for your partner, and then the ideas/gestures will come naturally.

Romantic gestures or ideas do not have to be lavish or big. But as I have experienced, it's the smallest things that we do that are truly romantic. Sometimes we may do something small that doesn't seem to be much to us and we hardly notice doing it, but to our partner it would be a amazing romantic gesture. For example, leaving a simple love note for your partner in the morning. This gesture is simple and doesn't involve money or mush time, but it will mean a lot to your partner and would make their day even better than it will be, just because they will be thinking about it all day long and smiling.

And if you're not really consistent at doing such things, don't worry. Just do it every once in awhile, especially on important occasions in your relationship (anniversary, birthday or some event which involves the both of you).

Also, these gestures do not have to involve much money. The best gifts are always the ones that are born from the heart and made by yourself. No matter how horrible it may look, the effort and love put into it would mean the world to your partner, more than any gift you can buy from the store. For example, poems, video dedications, photo albums (with pictures of you and your partner), cooking meals for your partner, watching a romantic movie at home, dancing to your partner's favorite songs, singing to your partner, and etc.



My advice? Keep it simple, keep it small, because it will mean big...

50 comments:

Adrian Hew said...

Fuh, u're truly been bitten by the love bug like damn hardcore already. Really happy for u macha. It seems that u've found the love of ur life literally =) Keep ur relationship with ur girl strong eh.

PS: Bila mau tunjuk gambar? Suppose to show me like dam long ago ady. =S

Pregnancy Concerns said...

i want to write a good romance book like the truth about forever by Sarah Dessen. Does anybody have a good idea for a story?

Jonathan Nathan said...

PC: Hurmmmm... watch A Walk To Remember. The acting isn't that good but the storyline is fantastic. Maybe you can get some ideas from there.

Adrian: Hahaha! Yeah the love bug. I'm pretty sure she's the one for me but only time will tell. All in God's hands. Gambar? I oso don't have la.

Uthaya Sankar SB said...

For advice, thanks Yoda.

crystal wine glasses said...

im guna start this lulluby but what are other books (not by sarah dessen) that are really good. i read the summer i turned pretty and it was just like a little romance thing just liek her other books. thankss!

Jonathan Nathan said...

Uthaya: U're welcome, Chewbaka!

Crystal: I'm not a great fan of novels. Sorry! :)

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Hi,How about a girl that is a writer who can't make up her own ideas meets a boy who actually can. Then they fall in love.
True writers can come up with their own ideas. Most romance sucks anyway.very interesting.thanks!

Anxiety Sydney said...

I think it would depend on the author. Most of the stories are, as you say, wishful thinking and fantasy. While I may enjoy those occasionally, I think of them as trash wallows. But true love, as well as love at first sight, actually happens and often enough in real life, that, if well written, could be based on actual experience.

Anxiety Sydney said...

She falls in love with her best friend's boyfriend's bestfriend while stalking her friend's boyfriend in an attempt to prove he is a lying cheating scumbag. A very good read & lovey but funny at the same time.

Pregnancy Concerns said...

People undoubtedly fell in love in the past.but all romantic be in love not if we read romantic book then we feel very romance.

crystal wine glasses said...

Ones like The Notebook, a walk to remember, and Dear John. But i don't want it to be one that has had a movie made from it.

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That’s true… a lot of them are dukes in romances. Can you imagine a pirate talking in an upper British crust accent? Please. He’d be laughed off the deck and cast to the sharks. lol

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Any good teen romance novels? Like Twilight, The Host, Sisterhood of the Travelling Pants, Truth About Forever?

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i read the summer i turned pretty and it was just like a little romance thing just liek her other books. thankss!

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